Facing Codependence

Author: Pia Mellody,Andrea Wells Miller,J. Keith Miller

Publisher: Harper Collins

ISBN: 0062031805

Category: Self-Help

Page: 272

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Pia Mellody creates a framework for identifying codependent thinking, emotions and behaviour and provides an effective approach to recovery. Mellody sets forth five primary adult symptoms of this crippling condition, then traces their origin to emotional, spiritual, intellectual, physical and sexual abuses that occur in childhood. Central to Mellody's approach is the concept that the codependent adult's injured inner child needs healing. Recovery from codependence, therefore, involves clearing up the toxic emotions left over from these painful childhood experiences.

The Mother and the Manager

Author: Elizabeth Ralston

Publisher: Balboa Press

ISBN: 1452595267

Category: Self-Help

Page: 220

View: 1302


In The Mother And The Manager Elizabeth Ralston courageously explores how our traditional gender roles create codependent behaviors in men and women and offers positive, workable solutions toward dealing with this problem. The Mother And The Manager takes an in-depth look at how our society has evolved and impacted gender roles into the twenty-first century. As 12-Step recovery groups have flourished in recent years, women have been educated about why they have issues such as low self-esteem, perfectionism, rigidity, relationship failures, inability to get their needs met and fear of conflict. Elizabeth has bravely shared about how patriarchy has impacted her life and how recovery has helped her to empower and heal herself. She will help many who are searching for answers to their questions and will help them on the road to recovery. I salute her ability to face her fears about “rocking the boat” in writing this book and taking the risk to speak her truth and stay on her God-inspired path.” Ginger S. Edwards, Licensed Professional Counselor, Licensed Addictions Specialist Specializing in Codependency and Trauma

The Self on the Shelf

Author: Gary Greenberg

Publisher: SUNY Press

ISBN: 9780791420454

Category: Psychology

Page: 287

View: 8513


The Self on the Shelf examines the cultural and philosophical determinants of popular "recovery" books. Greenberg argues that this literature can be read as documents of the prevailing understanding of the self in American society. The construction of the self promoted by recovery literature is seen as a nihilistic one insofar as it denies the significance of what continental philosophy calls the Other. In this sense the self-help books are correct in their assertion that we have lost sight of how to love, but their proposed solution shows up as a recapitulation and strengthening of the conditions that gave rise to this situation in the first place. Greenberg's critique provides a commentary on the difficulties that face our culture in achieving any sense of meaningful community, and on the way that this problem surfaces in a highly popular discourse.

Confessions of a Codependent

Author: Jacqueline Williams

Publisher: iUniverse

ISBN: 0595400868

Category: Self-Help

Page: 116

View: 1769


After enduring more than her share of codependent relationships, author Jacqueline Williams knew she needed to change her behavior patterns. Through a great deal of soul-searching, therapy, and prayer, Williams came to understand her codependency and how to eradicate it from her relationships.Written especially for women, Confessions of a Codependent: How to Identify and Eliminate Unhealthy Relationships defines codependent relationships, explains why they are so self-destructive, and explores why these relationships can at times lead to physical violence.Confessions of a Codependent shares other women's stories of codependent, abusive, and/or dysfunctional relationships, as well as the ways these women were able to leave them and move on to healthier partnerships. Confessions of a Codependent also includes practical advice on how to recognize signs that your relationship may be heading toward emotional and/or physical abuse, how to move away from self-defeating and self-destructive behaviors, and resources that you can use to escape a codependent relationship.If you're struggling in your current relationship and feel trapped by codependency, break the cycle with Confessions of a Codependent!

Cold-Blooded Kindness

Author: Barbara Oakley, PhD

Publisher: Prometheus Books

ISBN: 1616144203

Category: Psychology

Page: 387

View: 6682


In this searing exploration of deadly codependency, the author takes the reader on a spellbinding voyage of discovery that examines the questions: Are some people naturally too caring? Is caring sometimes a mask for darker motives? Can science help us understand how our concerns for others can hurt everything we hold dear? This gripping story brings extraordinary insight to our deepest questions. Is kindness always the right answer? Is kindness always what it seems?

Finding the Healer Within

Author: Beth Moran,Kathy Schultz

Publisher: Jones & Bartlett Learning

ISBN: 9780887376818

Category: Health & Fitness

Page: 219

View: 979


Finding the Healer Within is a contemporary guide for women to take co ntrol of their health. "Listen to your body and seek out the informati on you need," says Beth Moran, to help in finding your healer within. Women will find the intelligence, honesty, and humor that Beth Moran b rings to her practice a very welcome discovery. These are firsthand ex periences and insights of a successful women's health nurse practition er, with a holistic emphasis. Includes extensive bibliography.

Pathological Altruism

Author: Barbara Oakley

Publisher: OUP USA

ISBN: 0199738572

Category: Medical

Page: 465

View: 6931


Pathological Altruism is a groundbreaking new book - the first to explore the negative aspects of altruism and empathy, seemingly uniformly positive traits. In fact, pathological altruism, in the form of an unhealthy focus on others to the detriment of one's own needs, may underpin some personality disorders. Hyperempathy - an excess of concern for what others think and how they feel - helps explain popular but poorly defined concepts such as codependency. The contributing authors of this book provide a scientific, social, and cultural foundation for the subject of pathological altruism, creating a new field of inquiry. Each author's approach points to one disturbing truth: what we value so much, the altruistic "good" side of human nature, can also have a dark side that we ignore at our peril.

Recovery from Anger Addiction

Author: Verryl V. Fosnight

Publisher: Archway Publishing

ISBN: 1480827584

Category: Biography & Autobiography

Page: 326

View: 1048


This Book Presents a Paradigm Shift About Toxic Anger: Anger Is An Addiction Using the wisdoms of John Bradshaw, Pia Mellody, Claudia Black, Alice Miller, and many other recovery giants, Verryl grew to understand himself in the context of his past traumas. He was finally able to apply all the theories of these authors to heal his anger and rage. This expansion of theory to the emotion of toxic anger results in a revolutionary new concept of anger as an addiction. This paradigm shift empowers a person to recover from rage as an ill person seeking to be well, as opposed to a bad person trying to act better. Telling yourself you are a bad person is a self-defeating message to your inner self, but an ill person can get well. He presents this new, simple, and enlightened treatment for anger in easy to follow language. Ultimately these conclusions are illustrated as a set of simple diagrams that outline the full path of angers development starting from the core emotion of pain from early losses through raging behavior that is life damaging. Using the revolutionary model of anger as an addiction, he demonstrates that anger can be healed. There is no need to rationally manage toxic anger (while remaining a bad person). Toxic anger practically evaporates as an emotional impulse as the underlying pain is resolved in the good, but ill person. Included: Research survey paper on Anger Management classes by Desiree Harris, M. C.

Codependency

Author: June Hunt

Publisher: Rose Publishing

ISBN: 1596367261

Category: Psychology

Page: 96

View: 6384


How to set healthy boundaries and have healthy relationships You’ve heard plenty about getting hooked on drugs or alcohol or sitting at slot machines from sunup to sundown, but can you really become addicted to a person? The answer is yes—codependency is a relationship addiction. A codependent is anyone who is dependent on another person to the point of being controlled or manipulated by that person. Learn how to set healthy boundaries, and how to be released from relationship addiction by renewing your commitment to Christ first. June Hunt starts this minibook with stories of biblical people who ultimately compromised their relationship with God by being overly dependent on others, getting trapped in a codependent relationship. Codependency will shed light on the spiritual implications of relationships that take precedence over your relationship with the Lord. Helpful checklists like “the codependent relationship profile” will help you determine whether or not you are in a codependent relationship. Also learn what the five stages of childhood development are, and how you can keep your children from having an unhealthy dependence on you. Look for more titles in the Hope for the Heart series. These mini-books are for people who seek freedom from codependency, anger, conflict, verbal and emotional abuse, depression, or other problems.

Out Of The Woods

Author: Alan Heeks

Publisher: Hachette UK

ISBN: 1472110021

Category: Humor

Page: 272

View: 2293


This book is a guide for the maturing man: complete with route-finder, service areas, scenic highlights and emergency callout advice. It gathers the best wisdom and experience of many men on enjoying your best years to the full, on the skills you need to handle the losses and shipwrecks, and on how to grow through them. It offers insights, inspiration, practical advice and resources for further help.The aim is simple: enjoy life now! The book offers wisdom from the unexpected, like a Wiltshire wood, football, Sufi mystics, car maintenance, and heroic myth. Topics in the book include: Change and renewal. A fresh look at relationships. Work, money - and fulfilment. Tackling health issues. Family Dynamics: ageing parents and lots more. Last Chance Saloon: addictions, anger, depression, alternatives. Dreams, dawns, dying, inspiration. Giving and receiving: friends, groups, communities. Sex: Yes you can! Maturing organically: sustaining your happiness, giving back. The book offers an easy, entertaining read to guide men through this new stage of life.It's also helpful for partners, family and friends who want to understand and support them.To handle new needs and challenges there are self test exercises, and further resource guides.